Comments on: Joy in Resignation http://pos-psych.com/news/amanda-conley/2007013163 Positive Psychology News Daily - Daily boost of research-based happiness. Authored by University of Pennsylvania graduates of the Master of Applied Positive Psychology program (MAPP). Tue, 08 Jul 2008 20:59:57 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.1 By: Editor S.M. http://pos-psych.com/news/amanda-conley/2007013163#comment-262 Editor S.M. Tue, 20 Feb 2007 17:19:10 +0000 http://pos-psych.com/news/amanda-conley/2007013163#comment-262 Master-Reality.ru website has reprinted this article in Russian. Here it is: http://www.master-reality.ru/main.php?script=news&action=shownews&id=25 Master-Reality.ru website has reprinted this article in Russian.
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]]> By: David J. Pollay http://pos-psych.com/news/amanda-conley/2007013163#comment-143 David J. Pollay Fri, 02 Feb 2007 06:39:07 +0000 http://pos-psych.com/news/amanda-conley/2007013163#comment-143 Hi Amanda, Congratulations on finding such meaning in your final four weeks at work. It’s great that you are experiencing such a good end to a challenging time. While I know you are looking forward to the next chapter in your career, I love that you are savoring the best of what you have now. To some of your last questions regarding appreciating others, I think it would be fun for you to try recognizing the good things in other people as you see them over the next few weeks. Recognize your peers and your supervisors. Let it be a case study of recognition. When do people appreciate it? Why do they appreciate it? And if it doesn’t go over well, ask them why? You have nothing to lose; you’re already leaving. Have fun! Keep us posted on what’s next! David Hi Amanda,

Congratulations on finding such meaning in your final four weeks at work. It’s great that you are experiencing such a good end to a challenging time. While I know you are looking forward to the next chapter in your career, I love that you are savoring the best of what you have now.

To some of your last questions regarding appreciating others, I think it would be fun for you to try recognizing the good things in other people as you see them over the next few weeks. Recognize your peers and your supervisors. Let it be a case study of recognition. When do people appreciate it? Why do they appreciate it? And if it doesn’t go over well, ask them why? You have nothing to lose; you’re already leaving. Have fun!

Keep us posted on what’s next!

David

]]> By: Margaret http://pos-psych.com/news/amanda-conley/2007013163#comment-135 Margaret Thu, 01 Feb 2007 13:48:28 +0000 http://pos-psych.com/news/amanda-conley/2007013163#comment-135 Amanda - I thoroughly enjoyed reading your piece -- it read like a novel, but it was real life - YOURS! What occurred to me is that maybe you had Meaning AT work, but not necessarily IN the work itself. And the part about your co-workers being "out of your life forever" -- that may not necessarily be so. I still maintain friendships with at least one, sometimes two people, at my former places of employment. By the time you hit my age, you have "collected" friends all along the way. If your relationship with one or more people at work was strong, the friendship will transcend the work. Lastly, it sounds like your supervisors rarely used recognition/encouragement/appreciation -- only when you announced that you were leaving. Dana and I found in our Capstone research that managers who regularly recognized an employee's' performance had higher project performance AND higher employee engagement -- it really does matter. Of course, the recognition must be genuine and specific, otherwise it will feel like the manager is just using another management "tool". I'm glad you're taking some time to reflect on your experience, rather than jumping into something else. Warm regards, Margaret Amanda - I thoroughly enjoyed reading your piece — it read like a novel, but it was real life - YOURS! What occurred to me is that maybe you had Meaning AT work, but not necessarily IN the work itself. And the part about your co-workers being “out of your life forever” — that may not necessarily be so. I still maintain friendships with at least one, sometimes two people, at my former places of employment. By the time you hit my age, you have “collected” friends all along the way. If your relationship with one or more people at work was strong, the friendship will transcend the work. Lastly, it sounds like your supervisors rarely used recognition/encouragement/appreciation — only when you announced that you were leaving. Dana and I found in our Capstone research that managers who regularly recognized an employee’s’ performance had higher project performance AND higher employee engagement — it really does matter. Of course, the recognition must be genuine and specific, otherwise it will feel like the manager is just using another management “tool”. I’m glad you’re taking some time to reflect on your experience, rather than jumping into something else. Warm regards, Margaret

]]> By: Senia.com - Positive Psychology Blog http://pos-psych.com/news/amanda-conley/2007013163#comment-133 Senia.com - Positive Psychology Blog Thu, 01 Feb 2007 07:09:37 +0000 http://pos-psych.com/news/amanda-conley/2007013163#comment-133 Amanda - I got totally caught up in your story, feeling like I'm living in the moment alongside you. I wonder if you're also creating for yourself a good ending as some sort of <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Defence_mechanism#List_of_defence_mechanisms" rel="nofollow">mature defense</a> as Vaillant may describe it - so that's neat if that's the case. I wonder if you're geting a good end in there in order to have good memories to later remember everything well, like increasing the end part of the <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Peak-end_rule" rel="nofollow">peak-end rule</a>. Amanda - I got totally caught up in your story, feeling like I’m living in the moment alongside you. I wonder if you’re also creating for yourself a good ending as some sort of mature defense as Vaillant may describe it - so that’s neat if that’s the case. I wonder if you’re geting a good end in there in order to have good memories to later remember everything well, like increasing the end part of the peak-end rule.

]]> By: Amanda Conley http://pos-psych.com/news/amanda-conley/2007013163#comment-132 Amanda Conley Thu, 01 Feb 2007 05:11:48 +0000 http://pos-psych.com/news/amanda-conley/2007013163#comment-132 After reading my article I realize if anyone I work with ever read this, they might be hurt to know the degree to which I dislike my job. The people I work with and for, every one of them, have been wonderful. They are truly the reason each moment is bittersweet. Just wanted to clarify :) After reading my article I realize if anyone I work with ever read this, they might be hurt to know the degree to which I dislike my job. The people I work with and for, every one of them, have been wonderful. They are truly the reason each moment is bittersweet. Just wanted to clarify :)

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