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By: ashima soni

ashima soni — Wed, 25 Jun 2008 10:35:50 +0000

Excellent article…but i have a query.if we arnt regretful at all in our lives wont it affect our performance.

Ashima

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By: Caroline Miller

Caroline Miller — Fri, 16 Feb 2007 21:18:23 +0000

Great question! As I understand it, Dana, regrets are absolutely normal, and the research I read found that setting goals around regrets weren’t sufficient to ameliorate the toxicity of the regrets so you’re correct about that. The only combination that worked well to combat regret was goal-setting followed by accountability and action; goals alone were not sufficient to combat rumination/dysphoria/regret, as you can imagine. In fact, one of the studies I read said that present-day goal-setting/accountability was one of the best ways to counter the rumination of past unfulfilled goals. Happy to send along the research, if desired. There’s a particularly interesting study on women at midlife and their regrets that I use often with clients.
Cheers!
Caroline

By: Dana

Dana — Fri, 16 Feb 2007 20:11:31 +0000

Hi Caroline! I love the concept of “living in the no regret zone,” but I’m curious: do you think that goal setting can eliminate all feelings of regret? I wasn’t sure if that was what you were saying…and in Martin and Tesser’s study (1989), did they find that ruminators are likely to have more unattained goals? I think regrets are a big area that need to be further explored by positive psychologists…thanks for starting a website on it! love, Dana

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Senia.com - Positive Psychology Blog — Tue, 13 Feb 2007 07:11:01 +0000

Hi Caroline,
This article reads liek a case study - so interesting. Very captivating to read about this woman and her thoughts about her husband. And it’s really fun when you cite all these references. Merci. CONGRATS on the new website - looks very fun! Best, S.