How much of your day do you live in response to requests from others?
Most of us wake up thinking about how we are going to meet obligations and fulfill promises to other people. We begin our day in response mode and remain that way until it’s time to go to bed. In contrast, philosophers, religious leaders, and teachers have taught us for thousands of years to begin our day by expressing and feeling gratitude for everything and everyone we have in our lives.
For twelve years I have begun my day with the same positive ritual. I wake up and head for the nearest window. I open the curtain and look outside. I begin by observing something in the environment that fascinates me. I immerse myself in the wonder and awe of something that I cannot explain; this first step in my morning ritual reminds me that the world is much bigger than my life and my concerns.
University of Virginia Psychologist Jonathan Haidt, author of the Happiness Hypothesis, and Dacher Keltner, University of California-Berkeley Psychology professor, wrote about awe in Christopher Peterson and Martin Seligman’s book, Character Strengths and Virtue, “People consistently report that experiences of awe and elevation have profound outcomes, motivating self-improvement, personal change, altruistic intentions and actions, and the devotion to others and the larger community.”
My Mom grew up in Maine and often reflects on the beauty of nature. She once said to me, “Think of the beauty of maple trees. The same force that makes sap run up a tree from its roots to its trunk, against gravity, is the same force that resides inside of you.” Mom made her point by gently poking me in the gut and saying, “It’s right there; connect to it.”
No matter where I am I start my day with a moment of awe. When I’m at home, I look at the ocean. When I’m at a hotel, I look at tall buildings. When I’m in Maine, I look at trees. Wherever I am there is always something interesting to draw my attention. Each time I look out my window I appreciate the fact that the universe does not revolve around me; it includes me.
The second step of my morning ritual focuses on gratitude. I say everything for which I am grateful. My list includes being grateful for a new day, the sleep I had the night before, my health, my family (by name), my close friends (by name), my key supporters in business (by name), and important opportunities professionally and personally. I make it a habit of visualizing the people and things as I say them; I want to keep these images fresh in my mind.
Psychology professor at Eastern Washington University Phillip Watkins and his colleagues found in their research that “…grateful individuals have a sense of abundance. Grateful individuals appreciate the common everyday pleasures of life…grateful individuals appreciate the contribution of others to their well-being.”
My morning ritual of gratitude and awe helps me transition from a night of sleep to a new day of possibility. Huston Smith, professor of Religion and Philosophy at Syracuse University, wrote in his book The Religions of Man that “a ritual can smooth life’s transition as can perhaps nothing else. But it also serves another function; namely to intensify appreciation and crown man’s joy with celebration.”
Every day is a new opportunity. What would happen if you started each day with a little awe and gratitude? This positive ritual could change your life.
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David J. Pollay, MAPP, is the founder and president of The Momentum Project, an organization dedicated to increasing the positive momentum of their business clients. Email david@themomentumproject.com, or call 561.265.1165. David’s bio.
David writes on the 2nd of each month, and his past articles are here. |
Topics: All, Awe, Exercises, Gratitude, Habits, _1 Positive Experiences
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David,
Thanks so much for such a powerful message. One of my areas of focus lately has been about developing a daily ritual for myself. So far it involves a little prayer, some meditation, and asking myself the question, “what am I excited for today?” Integrating some gratitude will complete the ritual. I have a great window for it too!! Thanks again.
David, thank you for sharing your daily ritual! Your very actions continue to inspire me! I especially like how you specifically name the people you are grateful for — it’s seems too shallow to just say “my family, my friends, my colleagues” etc. I’m naming David Pollay, right now, as someone I am grateful for! Warm regards, Margaret
Hi Chris,
Thanks for your post Chris! Your daily ritual sounds great! Let me know how adding an additional focus on gratitude makes a difference for you.
Best to you,
David
Hi Margaret,
Thanks Margaret for such a warm and kind post! I sure appreciate it! I also try to visualize the people I am grateful for as I say their names. And right now I can see you; thanks Margaret!
Hugs,
David
DPollay’s article is reprinted in the Good News Network, an excellent place for news to enthuse.
http://www.goodnewsnetwork.org/content/view/1839/35/
[…] I’m a firm believer in the power of creating one’s day first thing in the morning through visualization. I like to begin my morning visualization after I have spent a few minutes expressing awe and gratitude through being mindful of my thoughts, feelings, and surroundings - similar to David Pollay’s morning routine. After I have primed my brain in that way I am better able to settle my thoughts and concentrate on creating my day, one step at a time. This visualization has proved to be remarkably effective and has become an enjoyable habit, but I decided to experiment with it after talking with my sister. […]
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Hi David.
I am new in membership to this organization and i was trully blessed by your article on “A Daily Dose of Awe and Gratitude”. I know for me it has given me a reson to make the daily Awes and Gratitude acknowlegements more consistent. The Awes help keep me connected to everything around me. The most unnoticable thing can bring about an awe that will bless the begining of my day. Being grateful for things and people daily helps me to remeber that i have the ability to be influenced and influence positively on a daily basis. These morning reflections help me to create a better day for myself and the people I come in contact with.
I plan to read more of your articles.
Thanks, Ghislaine Small
Hi Ghislaine!
It is so great to hear from you! I am so glad my article was meaningful to you. And welcome to IPPA. Congratulations to you for committing to start your day so positively and confidently. I will think of you tomorrow during my morning ritual. I look forward to hearing from you again!
Best to you,
David